How do you express your appreciation for the woman who gave you the most beautiful gift on Earth: life? Or the woman who has taken on that role, showing you love when you need it most?
Sometimes trying to match what she’s done with something material is so difficult, it’s almost paralyzing. So instead of getting her something thoughtful, you default to a greeting card or that bouquet of flowers you buy her every year—at the last minute.
While there’s nothing like a surprise bouquet of flowers to make mom’s day every other day of the year, Mother’s Day is the one day where flowers feel surprisingly unthoughtful. On just this one day, she wants you to think about her and share how much she means to you in the form of some thoughtful gift or message. But what?
Whether you're simply writing her a card, personalizing a fortune for her to wear in her locket, or thinking about a piece of customized jewelry for mom, we've come up with a few ways to approach your Mother's Day messages in a way that feels thoughtful, rather than generic or broad.
Here are 5 common types of moms and our thoughts on the messages--both sentimental and inspiring--to get you started.
1. The Take-on-the-Day Mom
We all know a mom like her. Even though she carries the weight of the world on her shoulders, she never seems disheveled or overwhelmed because she's in control of, well, everything.
She knows exactly what to do at every moment, and is not easily fazed by the unexpected. She confronts whatever challenge she's faced with head on. Problems seem to roll off her because she quickly solves them and moves on.
She doesn't express her love by being overbearing or by trying to be her kids' best friend; she does it by being okay with setting boundaries, being reliable, and proudly taking on the role of adult. She equips her kids with what they need to become fully realized and surpass any obstacles that come their way. She is a model of strength and she is lovely.
Messages that will resonate with her acknowledge her strength:
"You're the strongest woman I know."
"I am who I am because of you."
"Being a strong woman used to mean you could put up with a lot without breaking. Now it means you can put up with a lot, but aren't willing to."
"You make it look easy. But the fact is it's really hard and you do it anyway."
2. The Wise & Spiritual Mom
This mom is tuned into the energy and frequencies around her. She's laser focused on letting her kids discover who they are for themselves. While she's willing to introduce them to everything the world has to offer, she's careful not to push them in any one direction. She's open and accepting of all the expressions of self they choose to manifest.
She doesn't speak negatively about the people in her life. It's not that she doesn't have negative thoughts or get angry; it's that she chooses to react calmly. Doing it her way is more likely to help the person on the receiving end learn something more about themselves, than feel shamed.
She looks at every situation--good or bad--as an opportunity to grow and goes out of her way to help her kids see the lessons in the everyday.
This mother will always introduce a new perspective on things and help you view situations as your highest self. Her advice is always right, even if it's not what you want to hear, because it comes from the purist form of love.
And yes, she's got so many zen waves around her that you will inevitably want to sign up for a yoga class while in her presence.
Messages that will resonate with her honor her wisdom:
"You inspire me."
"Thank you for pushing me to become who I am, even when I wanted to become someone different."
"You have been the model of love my whole life. That's a high bar to meet, but one that pushes me to be a better person every day."
"Your instincts know things before you do. Trust them."
"Heighten your vibes. Lighten your strides."
"Free spirits don't ask for permission."
3. The Best Friend Mom
This mom is equal parts caregiver and friend. While she's clearly the adult and disciplinarian, the boundaries get a little bit blurred, in a good way, when it comes to your day-to-day. You share everything: the greatest secrets, your clothes, everyday experiences...
She and you are very much alike, but she gives you a glimpse into the future--a preview of what the confident, more knowledgable and experienced version of you will be like. Like any friend, she's got your back and will be by your side as mentor, advisor and support group as you face life's biggest obstacles. The Best Friend Mom is both role model and confidant. The link between you two is stronger than it is with any other friend.
Messages that will resonate with her acknowledge her dual roles in your life:
"I'm here when you need support, just like you've been here for me."
"You're not only the best mother, you're my best friend."
"When people say that I'm becoming my mother, I consider it the highest compliment."
"You are intoxicating when you do what you love."
4. The Planner Mom
Being a good planner often means predicting every possible thing that could go wrong in advance of it happening and correcting for it before it does. Because this mom likes everything to be perfectly organized and problems to be solved before they happen, she can also be a bit anxious.
She knows that she can't control everything and that learning the hard way comes with the territory, but she tries to offset as much pain as she can for her kids because she can't stand to see them unhappy. She feels what they feel viscerally.
She is both protective and present, no matter what time of day or night. She is the mother who misses her lunch break to come to see you do your flute solo and who organizes your surprise birthday party six months in advance while juggling work and home obligations at the same time.
Messages that will resonate with her are those that acknowledge her dedication and sacrifice:
"I see who you are beyond your role as a mother."
"Today is your day to replace selflessness with self-care."
"I wish you could see you the way I see you."
"Focus on the magic of things; yourself."
"Make self-care a non-negotiable."
"Set yourself up to experience what you love"
"We never know the love of the parent until we become parents ourselves."
5. The Adopted Mom or “Love Mother”
We have a customer who introduced us to the idea of a “Love Mother.” The love mother may not haven given birth to you but she's taken on the role of mother in more emotional ways. Sometimes you see her as more of a mom than your own mother; other times, she's a bonus to the great mother you've got.
In all cases, she's someone you feel naturally connected to and someone who seems to understand you better than you understand yourself. She is so wise that it's almost as though she's lived multiple lifetimes. How else could she possibly know everything??
And she's always right, even when you don't want her to be. If you're dating the wrong guy, she'll sniff him out way too early. You'll do your best to prove her wrong. But of course, she's not. She never is--not about these things.
Everything she does or says to you comes from a place of love, and that love is the glue that bonds you to her.
Messages that will resonate with her acknowledge her crucial role in your life:
"I don't love you because I have to. I love you because you're you."
"I choose you as my family. I'm glad that you choose me too."
"I know what love is because of you."
"You are with me in my heart no matter where we are."
"Follow what calls you."
"I love you."